Ladies – if your boyfriend does these 5 things to you, then you shouldn’t marry him.
- He gets violent, even if he doesn’t hit you.
You may think this is a no-brainer, but it actually isn’t. Unfortunately, many women around the world who’ve been in abusive relationships have immense strength, only to shut down in the presence of her partner’s anger and violence.
And, let’s face it – even if you’re a strong woman, you’ll freeze when your guy goes into a “rage” mode – throwing things, damaging property and calling you names. Ladies, you’ll know that this sign is a deal-breaker because even though your guy didn’t put his hands on you. No healthy relationship can be built off a foundation of fear because you never know when his actions may escalate.
- He cheats.
The real and ugly truth is that many people will say this point is debatable because lots of couples who have fidelity issues repair their relationship and end up in a better than where they were pre-cheating. But, here’s what I think – I really think it’s not the act of cheating that’s the deal-breaker here; it’s the disrespect, broken trust and significant risk to your health. With all the risks that hang in the balance for just a tiny bit of pleasure, it’s entirely inconsiderate and selfish when a man cheats on you. So, ladies – do you want someone who puts his wants before your needs, like security and trust?
- He doesn’t claim or proclaim you.
We all know someone who will spend their time in limbo-like relationships with guys who won’t give them the girlfriend title. But, ladies, here’s the truth – if you’ve been dating a man for longer than six to nine months and he’s hasn’t made you an official part of his life, then I really think it’s time to move on with your life and find someone who’s better for you. Well yes, and you should stop making excuses for why things aren’t progressing to the next level; you’ll only waste time, and your time is worth more than that.
- He suffers from addiction.
First of all, you should know that there are plenty of honor badges to be earned by standing by your man when he’s fallen on hard times. But, you should be careful, because if you stick with a man fighting demons, namely addiction, then you’re in for a huge disappointment. Note: and addiction can range from less-severe, like cigarettes, to major issues such as drug, alcohol and $ex. The reason why you should be careful is because someone who suffers from an addiction will do anything — and I mean anything — to get their fix, even at the expense of those they love.
- He gaslights you.
Gaslighting – it’s the manipulative act of someone attempting to change your memory or perception of events in their favor, making you feel crazy or like you’ve forgotten something. So, you should ask yourself – when is gaslighting a deal-breaker? We can answer this question for you – when it happens. A man who resorts to manipulative tactics to have his way or “win” an argument will continue to play mind games and be dishonest with you.